Where Does The Black Woman Fit In?

"70% of Black children are born to an unwed mother"

"50% of Black children who are born into a single parent household live in poverty compared to the 38% of White single parent households"

"Marry Your Baby Daddy Day"

"The Secret to keep a black male is to cook for him and drink with him"

"45 % of Black women have never be married"

"Twice as many Black Women are in college than the Black male"

"AIDS is the number one killer for black women between ages 25-34"

These quotes that I just posted were the facts that pierced my ear as I was watching CNN presents Black in America on a late Wednesday evening. As I plunged into my boatload of pillows I tried to feel some sort of comfort as special correspondent Soledad O'Brien threw these facts from the Television. I honestly tried to wrap around these negative aspects that focused on the Black Woman and the family. I was disappointed in the CNN special. I assumed they were going to uncover new and positive angles of the Black Female but once again they continued to play the rerun all the negative aspects of life. I'm not surprised that I was disappointed, instead of a wake up call or appreciation for us it played more as a reminder of struggles African American women struggle through on a day to day basis.

Of course a chunk of time was carved out to show the aspect of how many unwed Black mothers in America. Hearing that 70% of children are born to an unwed mother honestly hurt my heart. Yes, As a Black woman we naturally carry strength from every ounce of our bodies. We always tend to pick up the slack from the Black Males irresponsibility often leaves us with to bare. Often Black mothers will scrape and grind to make ends meet and will sacrifice their entire life to help the growth of their offspring. As much effort as a woman can do it still does not make up the absence of the father in the household. When God created the family He made it so the man was the protector and guide of the family. So when the father is absent it forces the woman to have to pick up these characteristics that she was not originally responsible for. A positive father figure present in the household not only holds the family together but completes the original family circle. A single parent mother holds the strength that can never be matched. Not only do they have to deal with the feeling of abandonment of a black male who had the desire to become intimate with her but not the desire to take care of his children, but they also deal with the guilt because they feel as if they are not capable of giving their children the right example of a father figure.

" Soooo Im watching CNN Black In America and of course once again I'm getting depressed with the stats of the single black woman" ..was the mass text I sent to all my beautiful, brilliant, black and yet still single female friends. Forty-FIve Percent. 45%. If I knew a different way to write it I definitely would. This is the percentage of Black women in America who are not and have never been married. Now this topic would not sting so bad if I had found a respectful, intelligent, and trust worthy black male of my own to enjoy each other presence. Its ridiculous when they display college educated, successful, beautiful black women having to compete over a Brotha who doesn't even have their life together. Im not saying that they're are not successful Black Men to choose from but the issue is its a small percentage. This small percentage of Successful Black males know that they are in high demand so they often use it to their advantage and act a fool any chance they get.

This issue is much more deeper than not being able to find a companion but it is causing the depletion of the Black Family. If you have not Read the Letters Of Willie Lynch please do. It gives an explanation of how the white slave masters purposely split the Black family. In slavery they would beat, strip and punish the Black male in front of his wife and children. This causes both the wife and children to slowly lose respect to the father as a male and the male soon begin to feel inferior to not only society but to the Black woman. In today society unfortunately the same mentality still applies. The black male becomes highly intimidated and begins to feel inferiority to an educated, creative, attractive black female who has set a plan in life and has started to achieve them. So we as Black WOmen are stuck with the question of.. do we continue to climb up life's ladder and allow our talents shine or do we have to dumb it down to be able to get a date? The majority of the time the answer is to continue to climb the ladder, which may leave us single and a tad bit bitter at times. Some females choose to dumb it down and that's when black women are stuck in the situation of settling just not to be lonely. Often times it backfires with mental,emotional or physical abuse...Ugh its a catch 22 ..damned if you do,damned if you don't.

Hmmm but then again being single is no too bad because atleast its lower your chance for receiving the number one killer of Black women. AIDS. What?! I knew the statistics before tuning in last night but it always shocks me to hear it over and over. How did The Black Woman become the number one victim when it comes to AIDS? Its not like we already have the entire world pulling us down but now we are dealing with one of the most deadliest disease killing us off. I have to agree with the special when they stated its the misinformation that is causing our AIDS rate to continue to rise. Its ridiculous of how many young people refuse to use any type of protection. You would think pregnancy would be a big enough reason to want to protect ourselves but now pregnancy seems like the least of our problems. This is utterly Foolish! We have to start taking back our voice, our strength Black Women. We are just as much as endangered as the Black Male is in today's society. All CNN did do was beating a dead horse. We need to stop reporting on these issues because we are aware of them but choose not to improve them. We can have reports on each major news channel discussing the struggle of the Black Community but what good is it going to do if change is not being made. We have to stop looking at these reports as sitcoms and start making individual change in your own lives. start with yourself.

Soo tonight is CNN's special on the Black Male...this should be interesting .. I just pray its not them spitting out excuses for the Black male because they certainly didn't give the Black Woman any.. Oh Lord Help Us...God Bless!

Intro

Greetings. I decided to start a second blog in order to get a silenced black woman voice heard. Sistahs Fist will cover topics that are deeply causing suffering as not only an African American but also as a woman. It is extremely convenient how everyone has a stronger voice in America except the Black Woman. We carry that responsibility and the burdern of the world on our shoulders and rarely receive any type of credit. We as black women have to stop being silent and allow our voice to be heard in this lie of a land called America. I hope you gain insight with this blog. Posts are Coming Soon. God Bless!